Is chivalry dead? or, am I just whining?

Wednesday I had to stop at the store and pick up every thing for my BBQ this weekend. Now, I may only be about 14 weeks pregnant, but sometimes I feel like I’m about 7 or 8 months. Mainly it is when I have stand up from sitting on the floor or lift heavy things. Two of the things on my list were watermelon and bottle water. The sale that week was for the pack of 35 bottles of water. That alone was ultra heavy and on the bottom shelf of course. Being lazy I stuck it on the bottom of the cart so I don’t have to lift it far, because even that amount of lifting felt a little straining. My watermelon was a big ole fatty. I get to the check out and leave the water at the bottom of the cart and the lady so graciously scans it for me there. Finally I’m all done and I’m walking at turtle speed and my body hurts and the cart is so heavy and I’m even asking myself if I can be any more whiny and pouty if I tried. I’m walking out the store, across the little spot you drive toward the parking lot. I’m trying to hurry because this very important guy in his extra important SUV is sighing at me and giving me dirty looks telling me to waddle my ass a little fatter so he can continue rushing off to his very important places. Look at me, I’m so frazzled by this I just wrote the king of all run on sentences.

ANNNNNNNYWAY As I’m waddle/rushing in front of this guy, my water comes crashing off my cart upside down on to the pavement. In this second I stop and I swear by looking at me you can tell I want to cry. I’m visibaly flustered and I just look at the guy pitifully. HE LOOKS THE OTHER WAY AND SIGHS LIKE WILL THIS GIRL HURRY UP. Then I finally try and bend down to pick up the water, and now would be a good time to tell you, this was the same day I wrote the post about my pants sliding off my ass because they were too big and missing the drawstring. So now here I am trying to pull my pants up with one hand, drag the water towards the cart with the other, finally giving in and letting my pants slide down to show my fabulous flower undies, I heft up the water with all the grace of a 2 year old and shove it on the top corner of my cart balancing it there with one hand and pulling my pants with the other. I ever so slowly start to move again and this guy is still getting frustrated and all twitchy looking. Finally I move out of his way and he zooms off so quick my water almost falls of again.

SO! The actual point here. Was it rude of him to just sit there watching me and sigh like a dick wad, or should he have gotten out to help an obviously frustrated girl in need? Oooor is it my fault for not puffing my belly out a little farther making it obvious I’m pregnant? Or is it option three that chivalry has been dead for a long time and I’m a stupid little girl for thinking he would help?

You know my husband always stops and helps people push their cars out of the road when they are broken down, why couldn’t this guy help me with me 40 pound water?

6 thoughts on “Is chivalry dead? or, am I just whining?

  1. Have you seen that commercial where one person sees someone else doing something nice for someone and so they do something nice which someone else sees and it goes on and on? I love that commercial and it jerks at my heart to think that we have to make commercials about being kind and nice to people. There arent many people out there like your husband who are willing to help. I have to say that when I have my kids I am much more limited on the nice things I can do for people when we are out but I always try to have the \”do unto others as you would have them do unto you attitude\”. If only everyone could, life would be less stressful…for everyone. Sorry that guy was rude, I would have helped you with your water and you totally should play up being pregnant. Stick it out baby. Hope you have a great BBQ and all goes smoothly.


  2. OMG! That commercial makes ME CRY EVERYTIME!That guy WAS a dick. I would have flipped him off… but like I have mentioned, my maturity level is at about 15 years old right now.Definitely stick out your belly as much as possible when needing assistance of any kind. People tend to SCRAMBLE to help poor preggo women in need. It\’s a fact. Most of the time anyways. I wish I could use my murderous witch/satan voice on THAT guy… Dammit!


  3. Wow what an asshole…I HATE people like him that just sit there and watch other people struggling to do something. Whatever happened to good manners and being polite…Stuff like that makes me sooooo mad…


  4. He so should have helped! That reminds me of something almost exactly the same that happened to me just yesterday. Except it was a case of coke (the stuff you drink, not snort) that fell off my cart and I rolled over it and a can exploded, but a guy totally stopped to pick it up for me. See, told you Canadians were polite all the time.


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