This weekend, I went to my moms house to help her fix her computer. During this mess we had to call her internet provider and ask them if there were any problems with her connection. I had to call because to put it nicely, “SBC INTERNET SERVICE SUCKS BIG ASSHOLE!” I’m on the phone with this lady, who I can barely hear. SINCE I can barely hear her, I can’t tell what nationality she is, including if she is American! I have to state this now, so you can understand my frustration later. I explain no less then three times to this lady what I want. I explain, that we have put a private password on my moms router and I need to reset it. She keeps saying, ma’am I can’t help with your e-mail password????? Huh, I’m not even talking about e-mail. Finally I get upset and I say, these words exactly,
“Is there someone else I can speak to, I’m not sure your understanding what I’m trying to say here, maybe a fresh pair of ears will help us.”
“SO WHAT YOU MEAN IS YOU WANT TO SPEAK TO SOMEONE AMERICAN?”
I ask her to please repeat that because I wasn’t really sure I heard her actually say that to me.
“YOU WANT TO SPEAK TO AN AMERICAN?”
I pause for a second and say, “NO, I simply would like to speak to someone else because I just don’t think you are understanding what I’m saying. I think you think I am talking about something else. If you wouldn’t mind can I just speak to someone else?”
She tells me no, that everyone there is busy and I’m stuck with her. Finally I’m so overwhelmed with this lady I hand the phone to my mom. She asks the lady if she really just asked me if I wanted to talk to an American. The lady replies “Yes I did!” All mater o factly like! Moms like okay, now you really pissed me off, I want a manager now, that was rude and inappropriate, I was sitting right here, and never once did my daughter imply that she wanted someone else because you aren’t American. Then my mom says this,
“Can I just ask you ma’am on a personal level what nationality you are?”
The lady responds with,
My mom starts laughing and says,
“Do you realize, you just asked my daughter, who is MARRIED to a Filipino and who has a half Filipino son and another half Filipino child inside of her, if she would like to speak to an American?”
Moms really laughing at this point. She asks the lady how it is fair for her to make an assumption that I would be racist simply based on me being American? The lady was basically stumped. My mom continues, that maybe that lady shouldn’t say things like that because she never knows who someone is related to, or married to and that you shouldn’t make assumptions like that, especially when I in no way suggested she wasn’t English. In the end the lady felt stupid and told my mom to tell me she was sorry, because she didn’t realize that I had Filipino family.
I just don’t understand. I felt like that was reverse racism or something. Like this girl was angry at me for being American or whatever. I’m one of the least racist people I know. I like everyone. I’ve had crushes on every ethnicity AND I MARRIED A DAMN FILIPINO. I will admit there are parts of my neighborhood I’m afraid to walk by, and they are inhabited by Hispanics, that is not why I’m afraid though. I’m afraid because the SWAT team has already raided their house because they are involved with drugs and gangs. I am also afraid because their are always some very fishy things going on outside. Not to mention, the rest of my non racist friends are also a little afraid of those couple houses. However, there are plenty of white people who scare me, and black people and purple people too. So it frustrates me, that this woman made such a judgment about me with out knowing a damn thing about me!
After thinking about this a little longer, the part I find amusing, is that I speak some Filipino. I actually could have showed off and said a few things to this woman, who assumed I didn’t understand her, simply because she was Filipino. Now that I think about it, maybe it would have been more effective had I told her “Thank you, but kiss my ass in Filipino!”